WINGS Domestic Violence Program
The WINGS (Women in Need Growing Strong) Domestic Violence Program began in 1979 and operates one of the largest domestic violence shelters in Los Angeles County. WINGS goal is to help domestic violence victims and their dependent children move out of crisis and toward safety and autonomy.
We provide safe emergency and transitional shelter, support groups, individual assistance and provide or help families access longer term transitional housing. We also help victims access financial support, medical and legal assistance, job development skills for stable employment, transportation and child care.
Through educational presentations, WINGS staff reach out to people in crisis and raise awareness of the entrenched, overlooked, and widespread social problem of domestic violence.
Our 24-hour Crisis Helpline is (626) 967-0658.
What is Domestic Violence?
Domestic violence is a pattern of abusive behaviors used to establish power and control over an intimate partner, often leading to the threat or use of violence. Abuse is any controlling, hurtful act, word, or gesture that injures another s body or emotions.
Why Do Abusers Batter?
To establish and maintain power and control over the victim.
Are you or someone you know being emotionally or physically abused?
Does your partner shove, hit, shake or slap you?
Does your partner make light of the abuse, insist that it didn t happen, or shift the responsibility for his/her abusive behavior, blaming you for it?
Does your partner continually put you down, call you names, or humiliate you?
Does your partner intimidate you through looks or actions, destroy your property, or display weapons?
Does your partner control what you do, who you see or talk to, and where you go, limiting your involvement outside the relationship?
Are you made to feel guilty about the children, or has your partner threatened to take the children away?
For family and friends
Does she/he appear anxious, depressed, withdrawn, and reluctant to talk?
Does the partner criticize her/him in front of you, making remarks that make you feel uncomfortable when you re around the two of them?
Do you see or hear about repeated bruises, broken bones, or other injuries that reportedly result from accidents ?
Does the partner try to control her/his every move, make her/him account for time, and accuse her/him of having affairs?
Is she/he often late or absent from work, has she/he quite a job altogether, or does she/he leave social engagements early because the partner is waiting?
If you are in an abusive relationship
Think of a safe place to go if an argument occurs avoid rooms with no exits (bathrooms) and rooms with weapons (kitchen).
Make a list of safe people to contact.
Keep change for pay phones with you at all times.
Memorize all important phone numbers.
Establish a code word or sign so that family, friends, or co-workers know when to call for help.
Think about what you will say to your partner if he/she becomes violent.
Pack a bag with important things you d need if you had to leave quickly (documents, keys, cash) and put it in a safe place or give it to someone you trust.
Teach your children to not get in the middle of an abusive episode.
Teach your children how to get to safety, to call 911, to give your address and phone number to the police.
Teach your children who to call for help.
If you recently left an abusive relationship
Change your phone number, make it unlisted, and block caller ID.
Use an answering machine and screen calls.
Get a different cell phone so that you can t be traced by the abuser.
Save and document all contacts, messages, injuries or other incidents involving the abusive partner.
Change locks if the abusive partner has a key.
Avoid staying alone.
Keep your cell phone with you at all times.
Plan how to get away if confronted by the abusive partner.
Plan an escape route in the house and teach it to your children.
If you have to meet the abuser, do it in a public place.
Shop and bank in new places and vary your routine.
Notify school, work, and family contacts. Make sure they know not to give your contact information to anyone.
Ask your neighbors to call the police if they see the abuser at your house.
Keep a copy of your court order with you.
Use a computer the abuser can t access or hack into.
What Keeps Victims From Leaving Abusers?
Victims do leave abusers, though there are many challenges, and it can take multiple tries before a victim is successful in leaving
Fear of the abuser
Increased Abuse Abusive partners are often more difficult after the victim leaves
Lack of resources.
Children The abuser s threats to take the children away.
Promises of reform by the abuser
Sex-Role Conditioning The teaching that it is a woman s responsibility to stay with her partner.
Religious beliefs and values
Social acceptance & reinforcement of violence against women.
Love for the abuser and feelings of guilt for leaving
How You Can Help WINGS
Request a Presentation - Learn about the issues facing community residents and the help available through WINGS.
Intern or Volunteer - Positions in the domestic violence program require a 40-hour training program that we offer periodically throughout the year.
Make a Cash Contribution -- This can be done via cash, check, credit card, on-line or a matching gift via an employer.
Leave a Bequest in Your Will - This can take many forms, including a specific dollar amount, a percentage of your estate, or a gift of stocks or other securities.
Give an In-Kind Gift of Products or Services - Donating specific needed items helps the YWCA SGV reduce operating costs and gives you a tax credit for market value.
For information, please contact the YWCA San Gabriel Valley at 626-960-2995 or firstname.lastname@example.org.
Thank you for your support!